Divorce without representation

Today I am talking about care and contact, maintenance for children and spouse. I’ve kept track of negotiations which eventually failed because he was not open to discussion but to tell me what he offers, it kept changing but on his terms. At this point I am not emotionally and physically well, I have anxiety and I’m on meds which I don’t prefer unless I get a bad attack. In my last blog I mentioned the side show where he took me to High court demanding that he lives with our kids two weeks in a month and I stood my ground and refused.  I’m talking about that section today, it also involves money (maintenance). Care and contact falls under Family advocate’s office. I took the initiative to institute an investigation and assessment from the Department of Justice office for free. Remember he failed to honour the interim court order that states an expert to assess the children.  At this point he sees children as and when he is available, nothing according to the interim order. I ...

This is my response to his attorneys when they ordered me to be assessed, because he said I’m a business woman and I’m rich. I am also capable and employable. That time he forgot that I’m a full time mother, dropping off, picking up, extra murial activities outside school, late night soccer matches. He conveniently forgot that he once said he will be hunter and bring the bacon home, instead he brought another woman into our matrimonial home. Since my attorney withdrew, I’m not familiar with court rules and certain legal aspect that pertain to compelling people to adhere to other’s wishes or demands, however I’m equipping myself with important legal procedural processes. I had to ask friends who are advocates to explain the act or law he was citing in the document. To my surprise when I googled it, he cannot order me according to the act/law. Reading legal stuff became of serious concern and watching those TV law series kind of gave power Below I’m sharing one of the personal e...

My attorney has to withdraw because I don’t have money to pay her, however she was guiding me and was advising me on how to file at High Court (HC). It is traumatic and I wondered why people looked glamorous going to such a place, it’s not a warm place at all, the building well according to me is worse than jail walls. It’s a traumatic structure that later became my new frequent place. Let me mention this before going forward, I am a praying child of God. I’m very Spiritual and the voice within has never let me down, it’s me not listening to it, doubting it.  God and the Universe surrounded me with people in the legal profession, from attorneys  to advocates and to be sane and mentally healthy, my great soul sisters in the mental health space were around. The friends who are specialist or experts in mental health, advised me and made sure I’m stable and I able to make informed decisions especially when it came to children.  I realised that we often ask and we are unaware ...