Demands from opposing attorney to deter attention

This is my response to his attorneys when they ordered me to be assessed, because he said I’m a business woman and I’m rich. I am also capable and employable. That time he forgot that I’m a full time mother, dropping off, picking up, extra murial activities outside school, late night soccer matches. He conveniently forgot that he once said he will be hunter and bring the bacon home, instead he brought another woman into our matrimonial home.



Since my attorney withdrew, I’m not familiar with court rules and certain legal aspect that pertain to compelling people to adhere to other’s wishes or demands, however I’m equipping myself with important legal procedural processes. I had to ask friends who are advocates to explain the act or law he was citing in the document. To my surprise when I googled it, he cannot order me according to the act/law. Reading legal stuff became of serious concern and watching those TV law series kind of gave power


Below I’m sharing one of the personal emails, this one addresses the above order to be assessed. The date was even booked to the industrial psychologist. 


I don’t know what informed your decision to book an industrial psychologist and the purpose of the assessment. When you decided to go ahead without my consent, you already committed to paying for it.


You clearly don’t know me apart from what you were told which remains questionable. I’m not your client and deserve to be addressed with respect.


I’m not responsible for anything that is imposed on me.


You should stop creating small side issues rather focus on the divorce.

THE END


I also filed an opposed application a day later, I laughed when he said to me I filed late but anyway he got the message. That never took place and by now the plea which is the response of the summons is still outstanding.


I’m now confused because he is not filing, I consult for free from friends and they explain the court processes. When you serve summons, he is given a couple of days to respond, if he doesn’t then you move to another phase I would call it that for simplicity. Instead they are trying to avoid filing their plea and they create a case out of the divorce matter. 


I later learned a new word that describes the side show, interlocutory. That’s what he did and forgot to file in court that it’s a matter that is important as part of the divorce. He was quick to get stuff to court because he had the legal representation and financial muscle but missed small matters. The interlocutory was not and is not a determining factor towards the granting of divorce 


The interim order that was granted, he didn’t honour it, kids don’t want to go to his house and now he has hit a dead end on that frontier which was supposed to frustrate me.


At this point I cannot afford anything, R100  note is a lot of money, I have exhausted all my savings and investments.  All I had was friends, my aunt and cousins helping me out financially and emotionally.


Nothing happened in April, I’m trying to find someone who can take my case forward without payment upfront. Again I learned about Rule 43, it’s an interim support while the divorce is still pending. 


All I needed was an attorney who can draft legal documents and I do the run around from court to sheriff. The attorney can also claim fees when the Rule Application is submitted. 

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